Father’s day is approaching and this is just a great occasion to celebrate the presence of dads in their children development, growth, life! And lets be honest the help they provide to us, moms…

Some are more present at home, and some are less, physically or even mentally, but I remember when the children were babies, I was waiting for him  and seeing him was just a relief😊

We sometimes want more from fathers, wish they were more involved, take more on themselves and we all have a different experience on that matter.

There is no doubt there is a certain sharing of the burden and responsibility for couples and each couple looks for its own balance.

It is not always depending on the father involvement or security in his fatherhood role but many times it also depends on how much mothers take control on…everything.

We often do not trust anyone else; we do not believe there is another way of teaching or raising kids…and they are very often very different from ours!

Let’s be honest, at least for this wonderful Father’s day😊 we also have no idea ourselves how to raise kids and learn as we grow (I used to tell my older daughter Nivi that she has taught and still teaches me daily how to be a mom and become a better mom). We as well make mistakes, and sometimes big ones (I still do a lot of them!) so it is a bit of gambling here! We try, we learn, we read, we share but then we do what we think is right and we sometimes feel good with the results (like that day when I asked Nivi, who was back then 8 years old, to draw something as our family was in the selection process to become a foster family and she replied to me ”I am sure you will be accepted as you are both great parents!) and sometimes feel horrible (when I get calls from the teacher saying my boy tried to start a scissors battle with some kid!)

So yes I believe there are differences between moms and dads and I do believe each couple, each family finds the right balance (which is one of the hardest thing to do sometimes) but for sure children get so much from both moms and dads!

Here is a great article about fatherhood role in statistics and research in America.

Importance of the role of fatherhood:

There are lots of articles that can be found on the net from an important impact on a child’s emotional and social development, to better educational outcomes, better verbal skills, intellectual functioning, and academic achievement among adolescents.

Personally, I involve my husband on all aspects of raising our kids, from Adler parenting classes to which we went together to important speech or talk I heard, from a call from the teacher to the hard day the little one had.

I believe we, moms, sometimes exaggerate and see things like with a magnifying glass when it comes to our kids. Fathers many times see things more moderate, which in some cases is needed, and even a must!

I also believe sharing opinions is super important, keeping the mind open and flexible thinking bring better results. Instead of remaining in our loop of thoughts on any subject or opinion, by sharing and listening, this opens the possibilities and enlarge the vision we have in a way.

So yes I strongly believe fathers are crucial for us, for our kids but also that Being a dad makes them many times softer, more emotional, closer to themselves…Things I today prefer not to say to avoid a fight, I hear my daughter say to him and is much more accepted…so let’s be it…

As I always relate to play, while I would use the quality time to play cards, board game or do some craft, being a dad in our family comes into life through Tickling the girls, or fight with the boy which remain very much HIS part. He does it extremely well and the children love it! He relates to it and I do less.

I highly recommend choosing the toys or games or playtime each feels attracted to, that really brings honest joy, not just for the kid but for us, mom or dad. That way the relationships gets deeper, the fun is stronger!

Here are my suggested toys fathers may enjoy playing:

• Outdoor play
• Enjoying camping together
• best Cards  games
• Top Strategy games
• Construction together
• Great trivia games

I wish to share my 10 unique gifts for dads to celebrate the role of Fatherhood: